Sometimes, a routine can be very bad for a relationship. Couples can get complacent and they end up falling into a relationship of convenience more than one that is actually built on love. However, routine doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. For the strongest relationships, routine also means stability and comfort. Routine isn’t a bad thing that all couples should avoid. In fact, a lot of couples should always be looking to establish a kind of routine if they really want to be able to solidify the stability of their relationship. These routines don’t have to be grand or strenuous.
Remember that a relationship is always going to have to take a character of its own; and character is always formed by habits. In order for your relationship to exude good character, you must always be practicing strong habits as a couple. It’s nice to have a nice routine that you and your partner can fall back on even when the world gets a little rocky and overwhelming.
So what are some examples of these routines that you and your partner could practice often? Well, you can be completely creative with it. Remember that your relationship is always going to be unique because of your distinct personalities. And so you have to develop good habits and routines around your personalities; habits that complement the both of you well. But if you’re in need of some ideas, here are some of the most common healthy habits that happy couples do.
1. Treat one another.
After a long day at work, it can be nice to just give one another a well-deserved treat to take the edge off. This treat can take the form of anything. It could be a scoop of ice cream or a bottle of beer. It could also be a good old couples’ massage or a nice feast for dinner. Whatever the case, you should always treat yourselves often whenever you’re together. The idea of constantly treating yourself gives you something that you can look forward to every day.
2. Take long walks together.
A nice stroll through your neighborhood or local park is always a good idea. At the end of the day, a million things could be running through your head and you might be feeling restless. Sometimes, the best way to work off all of that restless energy that’s building up within you is to go on a long walk. And the best thing about walking with your partner is that it gives you a chance to bond and really communicate.
3. Have sex.
Sex is important in any modern relationship. There’s no denying that. So if you find that you and your partner have been caught in something of a sexual slump lately, make sure that you actually make time to have sex for one another consistently. Sex is a way of reaffirming your passion and intimacy in the relationship.
4. Cook meals together.
Rid yourselves of gender roles and responsibilities. Both of you can share the load with regards to household chores. In fact, it would be great for you to be doing activities like this a lot together. Don’t limit yourselves to just cooking meals with one another. Do some sweeping and the laundry together as a couple to build affection and camaraderie.
5. Watch television or read books together.
Sometimes, it doesn’t matter what you’re doing so as long as you’re doing it together. You don’t have to be out on a fancy date to enjoy one another’s company. You just have to be together in the same room and that should be enough.
6. Spend a few minutes to bond with one another without distractions.
It’s not enough that you perform tasks with one another or alongside each other. Sometimes, the best way to bond is just the both of you in the room talking. You don’t have cellphones, televisions, books, laptops, or anything else to distract yourselves from the moment that you’re in.
7. Engage in deep and meaningful pillow talk.
Pillow talk doesn’t always have to be shallow or sexual. Sometimes, the most intimate and most meaningful conversations that you can have as a couple can be done in bed. Don’t be afraid to really go deep with your pillow talk conversations. You will grow to become more open and more intimate with one another that way.
8. Schedule date night every once in a while.
Stop allowing yourselves to just be content with staying home all the time. That’s the kind of routine that’s just unhealthy for a relationship. A change of pace and scenery can do wonders for the chemistry in a relationship and so you should make it a point to really take your dates seriously.
9. Do something your partner enjoys doing.
And lastly, one of the best ways to really build intimacy is to develop an interest for the things that your partner is most passionate about. Learn more about each other’s passions and hobbies.
Based on the materials from Relationship Rules